tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13676962.post115436591512066295..comments2024-03-19T11:29:35.307+04:00Comments on Learning to Live: Apparently, I must marry himSoniahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09184341166759324701noreply@blogger.comBlogger27125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13676962.post-1155532581720999582006-08-14T09:16:00.001+04:002006-08-14T09:16:00.001+04:00hi sonia, thanks for visiting. :)hi sonia, thanks for visiting. :)Preronahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08873055320080221754noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13676962.post-1155532565021662932006-08-14T09:16:00.000+04:002006-08-14T09:16:00.000+04:00hi sonia, thanks for visiting. :)hi sonia, thanks for visiting. :)Preronahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08873055320080221754noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13676962.post-1155516279495368672006-08-14T04:44:00.000+04:002006-08-14T04:44:00.000+04:00here after very long... same holds for blogging......here after very long... same holds for blogging... i dont know the background... so just take care and keep believing in yourself :-)Rahulhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17218254355932642892noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13676962.post-1155284178339778362006-08-11T12:16:00.000+04:002006-08-11T12:16:00.000+04:00may god help you indeed! all the best girl :)may god help you indeed! all the best girl :)Preronahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08873055320080221754noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13676962.post-1155226783182955072006-08-10T20:19:00.000+04:002006-08-10T20:19:00.000+04:00Rhyncus: sigh! My "intention" is to not be pressur...Rhyncus: sigh! My "intention" is to not be pressurized into marrying someone i don't like. to maybe meet someone i can like before i even think of falling in love with him. and then maybe if things work out, then i might give marriage a try.Soniahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09184341166759324701noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13676962.post-1155224021306125742006-08-10T19:33:00.000+04:002006-08-10T19:33:00.000+04:00Well, he's right when he says one is bound (I'd ra...Well, he's right when he says one is bound (I'd rather use 'defined') by one's culture. But maybe he's making a fairly large assumption as to what your culture really is and if it's similar to his culture. But then, to echo your dad, what are your intentions anyway? :)Rhyncushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08213788607917247073noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13676962.post-1155149023736289512006-08-09T22:43:00.000+04:002006-08-09T22:43:00.000+04:00lost in trance: nope. not if i can help it. inkblo...lost in trance: nope. not if i can help it. <BR/><BR/>inkblot: i do what i can.<BR/><BR/>anon: can't move at the moment. loads of reasons, none that anyone else would be interested in. but yeah, i have my reasons. this being tough business isn't easy.Soniahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09184341166759324701noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13676962.post-1155060947264849662006-08-08T22:15:00.000+04:002006-08-08T22:15:00.000+04:00Try to live on yourself, not neccessary in dxb,may...Try to live on yourself, not neccessary in dxb,maybe somewhereelse in this world?! Why dont you move out of your folks' house if you cant stand of them? Maybe you can apply a MBA program in the US of A.You will meet more ppl from all of the world so that you will not need your folks and THEIR friends to get you a guy.Do you have any friends out there to help you find a school or something? Dont give it up, girlie, be tough and independant to be yourself and to live your own life! Hang in there!!! Good luck and take care!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13676962.post-1155060848664265902006-08-08T22:14:00.000+04:002006-08-08T22:14:00.000+04:00Try to live on yourself, not neccessary in dxb,may...Try to live on yourself, not neccessary in dxb,maybe somewhereelse in this world?! Why dont you move out of your folks' house if you cant stand of them? Maybe you can apply a MBA program in the US of A.You will meet more ppl from all of the world so that you will not need your folks and THEIR friends to get you a guy.Do you have any friends out there to help you find a school or something? Dont give it up, girlie, be tough and independant to be yourself and to live your own life! Hang in there!!! Good luck and take care!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13676962.post-1155041988056798482006-08-08T16:59:00.000+04:002006-08-08T16:59:00.000+04:00you gotta help yourself honey. god is fairly usele...you gotta help yourself honey. god is fairly useless when it comes to this stuff (among other things)...Inkblothttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13542877259819763673noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13676962.post-1155038540410366942006-08-08T16:02:00.000+04:002006-08-08T16:02:00.000+04:00neplans to come down to godsowncountry-fullofpotho...neplans to come down to godsowncountry-fullofpotholes?Lost in trance...https://www.blogger.com/profile/10364405670141874208noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13676962.post-1154775813852687142006-08-05T15:03:00.000+04:002006-08-05T15:03:00.000+04:00anon:i'll only know when i meet him. lost in tranc...anon:i'll only know when i meet him. <BR/><BR/>lost in trance: the trip is still on, i have my tickets and i'm all set to go... as soon as i break it to my folks. <BR/><BR/>ghostoftomjoad: i don't think so. not this time. <BR/><BR/>the wise old man: i'm confused enough as it is, please don't confuse me more! <BR/><BR/>anon: i only blog when i'm unhappy. when i'm happy, i don't need to blog.Soniahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09184341166759324701noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13676962.post-1154753945936873812006-08-05T08:59:00.000+04:002006-08-05T08:59:00.000+04:00how come you always write about the problems and m...how come you always write about the problems and miseries and never about some happy fond memories?..i dont mean to judge but are you a pesimist in life...it will be good to hear some fun and happy things happening around u...Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13676962.post-1154622971039621332006-08-03T20:36:00.000+04:002006-08-03T20:36:00.000+04:00women's lib. oprah winfrey. what women really want...women's lib. oprah winfrey. what women really want. control of her destiny. all must surrender to culture....<BR/>doesn't leave you too much choices, does it?zhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09299730445104243525noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13676962.post-1154611257817732982006-08-03T17:20:00.000+04:002006-08-03T17:20:00.000+04:00Hang in there...and this too shall pass!Hang in there...and this too shall pass!GhostOfTomJoadhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13548587422494111204noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13676962.post-1154593799325699762006-08-03T12:29:00.000+04:002006-08-03T12:29:00.000+04:00...dont give in unless you feel good abt it...wat ......dont give in unless you feel good abt it...wat happened to the trip?<BR/><BR/>im still kinda finding my feet here in kochi...in all senses :)Lost in trance...https://www.blogger.com/profile/10364405670141874208noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13676962.post-1154549227672453312006-08-03T00:07:00.000+04:002006-08-03T00:07:00.000+04:00he is not your type of guy or thinking doesnt matc...he is not your type of guy or thinking doesnt match then who is your kind of guy and what kind of thinking?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13676962.post-1154544625333367242006-08-02T22:50:00.000+04:002006-08-02T22:50:00.000+04:00Peaceguy: He will. He's the only hope I have now. ...Peaceguy: He will. He's the only hope I have now. <BR/><BR/>anon who is against marriage: i shouldn't marry unless i meet someone who makes me feel like i wanna. and this guy makes me feel like joining a monastery just to get avoid being married to him! and yeah, parents and relatives... sigh. <BR/><BR/>Another scientist: in my case, my "culture" is choking me to death. <BR/><BR/>Saltwater blues: I do need to move out, but living in dxb is near impossible on your own unless the company provides accomodation. Or unless you make around 50grand a month ( which i don't)<BR/><BR/>hj: won't work at this stage. <BR/><BR/>indianpeppone: i am i am! I'm not gonna give in for someone who thinks so differently about life. <BR/><BR/>ab: planning the trip is farrrr from enjoyable.how to approach my folks is taking up all of my planning time! :o( <BR/><BR/>When you lie you have a wide grin on your face?! hmmm! trying to figure out which is worse, your's or mine - i stammer, try to change the subject, and then just tell the truth! :D<BR/><BR/>Lost in Trance: HOW WAS IT??!!! :o)<BR/> HOW R YOUUUUUU?? r u just making the rounds or r u back? <BR/><BR/>and he's 30.Soniahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09184341166759324701noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13676962.post-1154506773524537972006-08-02T12:19:00.000+04:002006-08-02T12:19:00.000+04:00'german researcher'...y does he sound old? :)'german researcher'...y does he sound old? :)Lost in trance...https://www.blogger.com/profile/10364405670141874208noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13676962.post-1154417417275549332006-08-01T11:30:00.000+04:002006-08-01T11:30:00.000+04:00Just stick to your guns babe. My folks give me the...Just stick to your guns babe. My folks give me the same thing that once youare above 25, the marriage market is bleak. It's hateful. Something will work out. So enjoy and plan out that trip as best as you can.<BR/><BR/>When I try to lie, I have this huge giveaway grin pasted on my face that is dreadfully revealing...ABhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04567332895636455646noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13676962.post-1154412003437227652006-08-01T10:00:00.000+04:002006-08-01T10:00:00.000+04:00Hang in there girl....no point in saying yes just ...Hang in there girl....no point in saying yes just to get it over with...and the mallu heritage dialogue will never go...just ignore...easy formula.. listen - smile - ignore :DIndianpepponehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05405090875806072969noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13676962.post-1154407518873541702006-08-01T08:45:00.000+04:002006-08-01T08:45:00.000+04:00I don't thing ur folks will allow u to live on you...I don't thing ur folks will allow u to live on your own and neither will they step back from the whole marry this guy funda unless u have someone lined up to keep them busy. I would suggest either speak to tell them u r ready for marriage but only with someone u find interesting..then keep rejecting them...they will be busy finding some guy u describe second way is to go do your MBA or convince them u want to study further in india and after that u will do as they please...will be a good break! - I know if only life was that easy but just trying to brain storm some ideasAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13676962.post-1154402481094611092006-08-01T07:21:00.000+04:002006-08-01T07:21:00.000+04:00Hi Sonia: I don't normally comment on personal/fam...Hi Sonia: I don't normally comment on personal/family matters, but looking at how this whole marriage business is tormenting you, I'd say it might be a good idea to live on your own (if you're financially independent). <BR/><BR/>Hope everything works out well.SwBhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04413778896282973176noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13676962.post-1154378531678897352006-08-01T00:42:00.000+04:002006-08-01T00:42:00.000+04:00Anyways what is bad about being cultured (or bound...Anyways what is bad about being cultured (or bound to some culture?)<BR/><BR/>Culture gives us moorings. If the guy has issues with your culture dump his royal ass.<BR/><BR/>Another scientistAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13676962.post-1154376083649456092006-08-01T00:01:00.000+04:002006-08-01T00:01:00.000+04:00Personally I am against the concept of marriage......Personally I am against the concept of marriage...I must say you must marry only if you are fully convinced about it...not just your society or parents or relatives wants you to see married...they all CONDITIONED to think that there is no life without marriage...Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com